I was at a family social gathering, and found myself talking to a father and his daughter. The family had migrated from Malaysia to Paris. I asked the nineteen year old what she was doing. She told me that she was studying medicine.
After a few minutes of interesting conversation, I turned to her father and said, “Your daughter is very intelligent!” I was giving both father and daughter a gift – a gift of a genuine compliment.
What do you say when someone gives you a gift? You say, “Thank you!” But, as happens so often when someone gives a gift of a compliment, the father rejected it! He said, “No, my daughter is not that intelligent at all.”
In my last post, I spoke about the power of praise. However, there are two sides to the praise encounter. – the giver and the receiver.
Think about your reaction when people compliment you. Do you show false modesty and “reject” the gift that was just given to you?
The truth of the matter is that human beings appreciate being appreciated – and that includes you!
TMI teaches that a complaint is a gift. I would like to add that a compliment is a gift. We also teach that you train people how to treat you. When someone gives you a compliment, thank them – and in doing so, you may find that you are training the people around you to spot you doing the right thing.